Yes, this is a real straight up talk blog post! Because I just woke up feeling bold and like I need to break some hearts this Saturday morning.
After this post, I will probably NEVER have sex again. Why? because if you meet me and you read this blog post and you have low self esteem you will probably think I'm going to judge your "size" and there fore, you will be afraid to approach me to have some sort of "relationship" with me that will ultimately end up sexual in nature. But, fear not, lucky for you if you have any interest in me at all and I have told you about my blog and you read it because you might be curious about me, I want to make it clear that, I don't judge people or at least try my hardest to catch myself and make sure I don't do so. I do this, because I have been judged all of my life and I try to live my life with the basic rule of.... Don't do to others what I would not like to be done to me period. So, for me personally I will never judge a man by his "size" as sex is not the most important thing to me or most women in the world.
I wanted to write this post, more so as to maybe ease men out there, who have this terrible thing that lingers on their mind about their MANHOOD or to please my friend who doesn't like the word manhood PENIS or private part as I used to tell my boys when they were younger.
When I first started having sex, I never even thought about a man's "size" but as I have gotten older and a tad bit wiser and as I have had more then one partner, I have observed the same types of behaviors in many men. I am no therapist, but if most of my life, I have noticed one thing and that is, that men that are content with their penis size because they think they are "big" and for the most part, have this attitude of....... I can just lay there and you can do all the work cause, I'M LARGE! well, do I have news for you, SIZE DOES MATTER! ALL INCLUSIVE BIG!
Why can I sit here and write about this you ask? I can do so, because I am a woman who talks to many other women and men, about this very topic. For some reason, people are very comfortable having such conversations with me, maybe it's because to me, sex is a natural part of being a human being we all have urges, including my young children all inclusive my youngest daughter. I have read up on this topic because it is of great interest to me and actually, when I was 18 years old and working at a bookstore, I was responsible for making sure all the books in the sex section (although they called it something else can't remember) I was responsible for maintaining and knowing titles. So as the good employee that I was, I used to make sure that I would read the books so that I could better guide my customers. What can I say, I'm a good hard working employee. What I found out was that sex is a natural part of life, we all get these feelings and it is OK! if you don't, then clearly something is not right. It's so natural in fact, that even very young children have these sexual feelings as well.
Now, back to the nitty gritty why I say size DOES matter. Just like men constantly talk about women among each other, women talk about men among themselves, duh! and we say things like, so....was it big? yes guys, we do say that, maybe not the very young girls (they think it only) but women, the mature woman that know's that it's ok that they have sexual desires they do say things like that. When I hear that, it is obvious to me that to the majority of the woman out there in the world, this little fact DOES matters, but fear not guys I am beginning to believe or rather, I am convinced, that we just say that to say it. Yes, just like men say... does she have big boobs? big butt??? do you stop talking to or sleeping with a girl because she doesn't have big boobs??? do you stop sleeping with a woman because she doesn't have a nice butt like the one you always wanted??? EXACTLY! I think that asking another woman was it big? is a response that automatically comes out of our mouths when we discuss a sexual experience among each other.
So why am I saying it matters? I'm saying it matters to the specific situation. For instance, when you are seeing someone and you have sex with them for the first time and they are not huge, at that point it really doesn't matter, because we already like you, we are already spending time with you and having sex with you at that point is just an added bonus to the fact that now we are an "item" what ever "item" we may have decided to be with you at the point of having sex aka "friends" "friends with benefits" boyfriend girlfriend" "lovers" "in love" whatever, at this point what really matters is how well you kiss us, how well you touch us and how much foreplay there is before the fact! that is really all it is, yes I am dead serious! of course if you are tiny then I don't know what to tell you and if you are too huge then I don't know what to tell you either. Too small meaning way below average or too large way below average is not good because well if you are too tiny which is highly un likely, then we won't feel anything (but even then there are alternatives) and if you are too large (it's probably more painful then pleasurable) and even then there are alternatives.
When we have sex with a man, after the fact, trust me when I say that I have heard woman saying things like, it wasn't that big but it was really good because he did xy and z. I have also heard, it wasn't that big but he is so nice I really like him so I don't really care. Woman are more concerned with the emotional aspect of the situation, more so then the actual size. I am sure that there are women out there who size is the only thing that matters to them (I haven't met one yet) but I'm sure there may be some, but I am not talking about those extreme ladies, I am talking about the average woman.
Also, I have told many of my male friends this. Don't think because a man is huge that he is any better then you, trust me on this one, men that are too big and think they don't have to do a thing in bed to please us, well guess what? I have news for you. In talking to various women about this, most often, woman have said to me that these are the men that are usually lousy lovers. Therefore, leaving you average guys out there with the advantage of showing what you have in the bed, by making sure you take care of your lady via other means aka emotionally and well..... educate yourself about what women enjoy sexually! HELLO!!! there are books about this! Also, it takes two to tango the responsibility of pleasurable sex regardless of size, should not only be placed on the man. In addition, the longer you are having sex with your partner, the bigger it begins to appear to us. I won't get into that on this post, but hey, there are other blogs out there about different things men and women can do to please each other physically and how men and women are made to fit each other almost like a puzzle.
In conclusion, ladies, PLEASE I BEG YOU! no matter how small you may think a man is PLEEEEAAAASEEEE don't ever tell a man something so horrible! whole marriages have been ruined by things like that! IT IS A HORRIBLE THING TO DO! DON'T DO IT! We should never go around looking at people's flaws like that, we are all beautiful. Woman who say that to a man, have low self esteem themselves. Just because it's small to your opinion, doesn't mean it's small to my opinion and if I meet him after you and you already scarred him, he will probably have mad issues that I don't care to deal with. I'm serious, don't judge a man by his penis size, big men kind of suck in bed. And all you handsome men out there who have low self esteem about your size DON'T because that is what ultimately will show, the fact that you have low self esteem, not the fact that you may not be "blessed" with a large useless penis. Size does matter, but only to the shallow women that are running around sleeping around with everyone. Why would you want to be with a woman like that?
As a side note, Dr. John Gray talks about how mens' self esteem is so important and how it effects the way they perform in the bed room (regardless of size). This is an excellent book.
After this post, I will probably NEVER have sex again. Why? because if you meet me and you read this blog post and you have low self esteem you will probably think I'm going to judge your "size" and there fore, you will be afraid to approach me to have some sort of "relationship" with me that will ultimately end up sexual in nature. But, fear not, lucky for you if you have any interest in me at all and I have told you about my blog and you read it because you might be curious about me, I want to make it clear that, I don't judge people or at least try my hardest to catch myself and make sure I don't do so. I do this, because I have been judged all of my life and I try to live my life with the basic rule of.... Don't do to others what I would not like to be done to me period. So, for me personally I will never judge a man by his "size" as sex is not the most important thing to me or most women in the world.
I wanted to write this post, more so as to maybe ease men out there, who have this terrible thing that lingers on their mind about their MANHOOD or to please my friend who doesn't like the word manhood PENIS or private part as I used to tell my boys when they were younger.
When I first started having sex, I never even thought about a man's "size" but as I have gotten older and a tad bit wiser and as I have had more then one partner, I have observed the same types of behaviors in many men. I am no therapist, but if most of my life, I have noticed one thing and that is, that men that are content with their penis size because they think they are "big" and for the most part, have this attitude of....... I can just lay there and you can do all the work cause, I'M LARGE! well, do I have news for you, SIZE DOES MATTER! ALL INCLUSIVE BIG!
Why can I sit here and write about this you ask? I can do so, because I am a woman who talks to many other women and men, about this very topic. For some reason, people are very comfortable having such conversations with me, maybe it's because to me, sex is a natural part of being a human being we all have urges, including my young children all inclusive my youngest daughter. I have read up on this topic because it is of great interest to me and actually, when I was 18 years old and working at a bookstore, I was responsible for making sure all the books in the sex section (although they called it something else can't remember) I was responsible for maintaining and knowing titles. So as the good employee that I was, I used to make sure that I would read the books so that I could better guide my customers. What can I say, I'm a good hard working employee. What I found out was that sex is a natural part of life, we all get these feelings and it is OK! if you don't, then clearly something is not right. It's so natural in fact, that even very young children have these sexual feelings as well.
Now, back to the nitty gritty why I say size DOES matter. Just like men constantly talk about women among each other, women talk about men among themselves, duh! and we say things like, so....was it big? yes guys, we do say that, maybe not the very young girls (they think it only) but women, the mature woman that know's that it's ok that they have sexual desires they do say things like that. When I hear that, it is obvious to me that to the majority of the woman out there in the world, this little fact DOES matters, but fear not guys I am beginning to believe or rather, I am convinced, that we just say that to say it. Yes, just like men say... does she have big boobs? big butt??? do you stop talking to or sleeping with a girl because she doesn't have big boobs??? do you stop sleeping with a woman because she doesn't have a nice butt like the one you always wanted??? EXACTLY! I think that asking another woman was it big? is a response that automatically comes out of our mouths when we discuss a sexual experience among each other.
So why am I saying it matters? I'm saying it matters to the specific situation. For instance, when you are seeing someone and you have sex with them for the first time and they are not huge, at that point it really doesn't matter, because we already like you, we are already spending time with you and having sex with you at that point is just an added bonus to the fact that now we are an "item" what ever "item" we may have decided to be with you at the point of having sex aka "friends" "friends with benefits" boyfriend girlfriend" "lovers" "in love" whatever, at this point what really matters is how well you kiss us, how well you touch us and how much foreplay there is before the fact! that is really all it is, yes I am dead serious! of course if you are tiny then I don't know what to tell you and if you are too huge then I don't know what to tell you either. Too small meaning way below average or too large way below average is not good because well if you are too tiny which is highly un likely, then we won't feel anything (but even then there are alternatives) and if you are too large (it's probably more painful then pleasurable) and even then there are alternatives.
When we have sex with a man, after the fact, trust me when I say that I have heard woman saying things like, it wasn't that big but it was really good because he did xy and z. I have also heard, it wasn't that big but he is so nice I really like him so I don't really care. Woman are more concerned with the emotional aspect of the situation, more so then the actual size. I am sure that there are women out there who size is the only thing that matters to them (I haven't met one yet) but I'm sure there may be some, but I am not talking about those extreme ladies, I am talking about the average woman.
Also, I have told many of my male friends this. Don't think because a man is huge that he is any better then you, trust me on this one, men that are too big and think they don't have to do a thing in bed to please us, well guess what? I have news for you. In talking to various women about this, most often, woman have said to me that these are the men that are usually lousy lovers. Therefore, leaving you average guys out there with the advantage of showing what you have in the bed, by making sure you take care of your lady via other means aka emotionally and well..... educate yourself about what women enjoy sexually! HELLO!!! there are books about this! Also, it takes two to tango the responsibility of pleasurable sex regardless of size, should not only be placed on the man. In addition, the longer you are having sex with your partner, the bigger it begins to appear to us. I won't get into that on this post, but hey, there are other blogs out there about different things men and women can do to please each other physically and how men and women are made to fit each other almost like a puzzle.
In conclusion, ladies, PLEASE I BEG YOU! no matter how small you may think a man is PLEEEEAAAASEEEE don't ever tell a man something so horrible! whole marriages have been ruined by things like that! IT IS A HORRIBLE THING TO DO! DON'T DO IT! We should never go around looking at people's flaws like that, we are all beautiful. Woman who say that to a man, have low self esteem themselves. Just because it's small to your opinion, doesn't mean it's small to my opinion and if I meet him after you and you already scarred him, he will probably have mad issues that I don't care to deal with. I'm serious, don't judge a man by his penis size, big men kind of suck in bed. And all you handsome men out there who have low self esteem about your size DON'T because that is what ultimately will show, the fact that you have low self esteem, not the fact that you may not be "blessed" with a large useless penis. Size does matter, but only to the shallow women that are running around sleeping around with everyone. Why would you want to be with a woman like that?
As a side note, Dr. John Gray talks about how mens' self esteem is so important and how it effects the way they perform in the bed room (regardless of size). This is an excellent book.
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